First Date Conversation Skills

So you are going out on a first date and naturally you feel a little nervous. What are you going to talk about you are probably wondering? Are you expected to be the person to be making all the conversation and what happens if you end up talking far too much or worse still, too little? You may worry about whether you come across as being boring. We have a little advice for you, just relax and breathe because you have this under control.

Conversation is a skill that can be acquired

Being able to conduct a conversation with a stranger is a social skill much the same way good manners and grooming are also social skills. This is good news because this means that conversation skills can be learned. In fact, people should seek to learn how to converse with a stranger not just for dating purposes but because it is a good life skill to have in general.

Be prepared

Good conversationalists make it seem so easy. If this is something that you don’t find comes naturally to you at all then the key to becoming good is preparation. The easiest trick in the book is to shift the focus of attention away from yourself and on to your date. Have them do all the talking! Before you head out on your first date, take some time to jot down a list of questions, preferably ones you can ask follow up questions too. What you will find is people do like to talk about themselves, so you can ask them about their work, family, interest and travel experiences. These kinds of questions indicate to your date that you actually happen to be interested in them and what they have to say.

Avoid certain topics

One thing you should avoid doing is starting up a conversation about politics, or religion. These are not the kinds of topics you want to be discussing on a first date. Instead focus on much more neutral topics and whilst being on top of current affairs is a good thing because it shows you are engaged with what is happening in the world, make sure you stay away from the two areas of politics and religion and perhaps talk about entertainment or even business if your date happens to seem to enjoy the conversation.

Anticipate being asked questions yourself

Eventually your date is going to ask you about yourself at some point. So you should anticipate these questions and imagine you have been asked about your work or family. You should come up with interesting responses and don’t just leave it at the bare minimum. Conversation skills are just the same as all kinds of other skills. When you try learning or improving on them you get out if it what you put into it. You should not expect your date to have to do all the work. That way you have a much better chance of getting that second date.

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