How To Stay Positive Whilst Dating

Dating can be the most wonderful experience. You get to meet new people, have a few first kisses and perhaps even fall in love one day. It can also be a terrifying experience, after all one has to summon courage to put themselves out there and meet people for the first time. That does require a certain amount of emotional resilience because alongside the potential for romance is the potential for rejection. It is easy to feel good about dating when things are going well, but just as easy to feel negative after a few bad dates. It is important to avoid the negativity trap and stay positive because it can become a self-fulfilling prophecy. So how does one avoid it so that they have the best chance of achieving dating success? Here are few tips on how to stay positive whilst dating

Be selective

You should be picky about whom you choose to go out on dates with. If you are using an online dating platform, have good vetting practices. You should not see dating simply as a numbers game that forces you to meet as many people as possible before finding your soul mate. It is a waste of time dating people you know you won’t have any attraction to. You should only go out on dates with people who you are genuinely excited to meet.

Manage expectations

Your first date expectations should be realistic. If you go on a first date expecting the person you be your next life partner, that is setting unreasonable expectations. Instead you should just hope to have a nice time and some pleasant conversation. If it turns out you end up having a wonderful time and really want to see the person again, then you have done better than expected and if not, the worst outcome is a pleasant hour with nothing lost.

Rejection is no big deal

When you are dating you should be acutely aware that at some point everyone has been rejected in their lives. Obviously, it isn’t the most wonderful feeling but it is not a reflection of your value as a person nor does it mean you are unattractive. It simply means that you did not resonate with the other person, something you will have obviously felt about other people without having passed any judgement. Sure, it can be disappointing but it is not the end of the world, don’t let it get you down, pick yourself up and stay positive.

Value yourself

Always have high standards. Your time is valuable and so are you as a person and this means you deserve to be well treated and deserve the kind of relationship you want. If you go on a date and the bells aren’t ringing, or if they do ring but the person is not willing to offer you what you are looking for, then move on quickly.

 Take a time out

If you are feeling a little fragile about the whole dating experience, there is nothing wrong with taking a little break from the dating game and having a little me time. You can use the time to do things you enjoy and spend time with people you care about and who care about you. You should feel okay about yourself before you can be okay with the dating experience. The happier you feel, the happier the dating experience is going to be.

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